#104 - Become the CEO of Your Mind; Rewiring Subconscious Beliefs for Business Growth with Cary Ouellette

What if your subconscious beliefs—not your strategy—are what’s fueling or  blocking your business growth?

If we could grab the reigns on all those runaway thoughts, maybe business would feel a whole lot lighter!

In this episode, I sit down with intuitive emotional wellness practitioner Cary Ouellette to explore how our inner programming shapes our outer success. We talk anxiety, mindset tools, subconscious rewiring, and the path to becoming the CEO of your mind.

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck at a plateau, or just craving a more intuitive way of leading your business, this conversation may shift something in you.

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Transcript

 Okay, you guys, I'm very excited to introduce you to my guest today. Her name is Carrie Willette and she is an intuitive emotional wellness practitioner who helps women with anxiety or those big goals that keep hitting walls, to learn how to master the mind and really become the CEO of their mind and help manifest their dreams.

And we are gonna dive into some really important topics today that I think really affect every single person listening. We're gonna talk about how your thoughts and your beliefs in yourself can impact your business. We're gonna talk about managing stress and anxiety. We're gonna talk about, you know, the source of all of this and how to really use specific tools to get this under control in your life so you can relieve and release some of that stress and anxiety and.

I think really become more clearly aligned with whatever your goal is. So Carrie, thank you so much for joining me. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much. Before we get into questions about mastering the mind and all of the deeper stuff here, I would just love to ask you to share kind of why this topic is your focus of your work and how you got into this line of work.

Sure. Well, I'll, I'll start with the intuitive piece.

I knew as a, at a, a young, very young age that I was intuitive. I had this relationship with Mary Virgin mother and. I believed I could communicate with her. Everything was really interesting. My sister was really supportive of that, but when my parents learned about it, they sort of shut it down like it was the devil.

And so that's when I stopped. I was very, very young. Um, the messages I was receiving I felt weren't in a, in a coming from light. And I was thinking it was darkness, which wasn't true. So I shut it down and I shut it down for a very, very, very long time. And then I'll fast forward to when I had my kids. I have three kids, and I was married to somebody who, you know, it just wasn't a great relationship.

It was, it was pretty toxic. But I had three kids and I had postpartum depression with each of 'em, and I didn't even know it like. It increasingly got worse. And with my third child, I was diagnosed with anxiety. And anybody that I shared that with were like, you care, you had anxiety. Because I'm like, calm all the time.

Nobody would've guessed that I had anxiety because I hid it so well, like my internal being was crazy inside. But I was calm, cool, and collected and everything was okay. And that's how I lived for like so long. My childhood, I had to start pretending that everything was okay to, to try to keep the peace.

And I just carried that with me for years. But in my career, I was in corporate for many years and I, I was in quality assurance, which was, you know, sort of boring. But I had this knack of talking to people and giving them a safe space to. To connect with. And so I found myself doing HR stuff, even though that wasn't my title, right?

So people would just come to me, we would talk, and they always left feeling better or maybe had an area in their life that they're gonna start changing. And we never talked about work. You know, you bring all of your stuff to work and, and it's just there. So we discussed all that kind of personal stuff, which was really lovely.

And I, I started feeling like, Ooh, this is interesting to me. I like it. So I was going through my stuff while also helping other people go through their stuff. And that was, uh, the beginning of, oh, this is really interesting and, and maybe this is where my heart is. I ended up leaving the corporate job, um, and then deciding to just do this on my own.

I also work in the area of the subconscious. I got certified in that back in, um, 2021 and I really, really love that, that work and the power of what your subconscious is doing, because that is ru ruling our lives. Yeah. 90% of what we do is based on our subconscious thoughts.

What exactly does the work look like, like when you're working with a client in, when we specifically with subconscious work, because this fascinates me. Yeah. Conversations is where it starts. So always creating a safe space for people to let down their walls is.

Let's start and then just listening. When you start listening to people speak, you will hear their programming. Mm. Right? So whatever it is, whether it's, I don't deserve this, this always happens to me. I'm not worthy of this, this never happens, or this always happens when you just start listening. You can hear their programming.

And then when you stop for a minute and then ask them, how does that feel? And then they say things like, that feels really lonely, or That feels really frustrating, or, that gets me so angry and, and then you ask the question, where has that happened before in your life? And then they're like, okay, it happened here.

It happened here, and it happened here. And then getting them to realize that this is all just energy. Then it's these repeating patterns that happen. It's the energy that you hold onto in your subconscious and your, the universe is going to work for you. Whatever your belief system is, you're gonna get it.

Yeah. So, right. I absolutely, I believe deeply in this work, but it's new to me in terms of practicing on a regular basis. I've started listening to some hypnotherapy. Oh, lovely. And I love it. It's so good. I I've been meditating for many years, but specifically rewiring the subconscious programming, which is different than just listening.

I mean, meditation is creating space, tuning in, but this is a little different. This is like really helping to go to that place of, you have a belief that was instilled in you as a young person from a young, young place. Can we go there and sort of unravel that? Yeah. I, I often say I have meditations, but they tend to be more visualizations and, you know, that deep kind of work when you can visualize something that just increases the power of it.

Mm-hmm. And you can, go in and, and really change things, especially inner child work. You can go in and redo things and when you do that, you lose that emotional connection to it, that hook that's in you. And that's what I love for people to become like the CEO of their mind become this powerhouse where they don't let whatever happen to them have that emotional hold on them anymore.

When you release that, it's like, oh my gosh, I have so much more free time. I have more space to think, I have more space to feel. And then you open yourself up to synchronicities and just things start happening for you. It's amazing. Yeah, that's, well, you just answered my first, my first actual question that I wrote down.

Um, I was, I love this phrase, become the CEO of your mind. And I think it is super relevant. I think as entrepreneurs, we tend to seek outside of ourselves for examples of how to take steps. And in that seeking of like a scaffolding for how do I build a business? What platforms do I need to be on? How should I be calling myself?

Am I a coach, a consultant at this or that? We lose a sense of self, right? We're seeking the solution to questions that we have as we build something completely new out of. A lot of times, even if someone else has done what you're doing before, it feels really new to you. And so it is like blank canvas in front of us.

And that's very scary for people. Mm-hmm. And so I love this conversation about like, how much of what we decide to do is based on subconscious programming or these like patterns versus, you know, us looking out into the world and saying, I see an example over there on the internet of a woman who just made a million dollars.

I'm gonna do what she did. And trying to copy others while we learn versus dropping in and really saying, who am I? Right? What do I believe? Like, what do I wanna leave as a legacy and create with a business? And I think there's like a lot of different gray area in there. So I was gonna ask the question, what does it mean to you to become the CEO of your mind?

Yeah. And, and that's exactly right. It's really stepping into your power. So we've had things, everybody has stuff right? And it's just a huge array of levels. But if we allow those things to hold us down. Weigh us down, we become more, um, in the, in the victim state, right? So I really encourage people to let the past go and those emotions go and step into your power.

And when you're in your power, you create your life and you choose, like, you can choose to be happy. You know, this is always like the easiest, hardest work because it's really easy to change a thought. So you say, okay, I'm gonna think of a cat. All right, here's a cat.

Now I'm gonna think of a dog. All right? There's a dog. So easy to change your thought. Yeah. There's a work to be done to say. I'm not worthy to, I am worthy. Like there's, there's a space in between. If that's a belief system in your head of not worthy, there's a space there that you need to, you know, believe that you're worthy.

You have to get to that, that worthiness state. But it is a choice. And when you decide to take care of yourself, you decide to put yourself first. You decide to be powerful, you decide to control your mind. Then things will happen and things will start to shift. So do you think that people, is it, do we say the words out loud first, I am worthy.

I am worthy. I am worthy. And then it starts to shift? Or is there a different process I know neurolinguistic practices help a lot. Yeah. Like saying things out loud and sort of rewiring the. The conscious mind, but I think there's something different going on with the subconscious mind.

Yes. Is that right? I, I like to share just different things for people. So I first like to start with, you know, tapping into the feeling, what is the feeling that you have? So if you don't feel worthy, what does that feel like?

And then asking that question, why, why don't I feel that way? And giving yourself the reasons why. So it's most likely past experiences. So those are the, the areas that you need to heal and to say, that doesn't have a hold on me anymore. And the way that you can do that is through journaling, through walking, meditation, or physical.

Activity, um, visualization is really, really wonderful. And also just talking when you talk to somebody about something from your past. 'cause you know, we carry, I've carried a lot of stuff that's very, personal very hurtful, and I was scared to talk about it. And that's also traps your voice. So when you start expressing it, it's, that's a way of almost like therapy too.

And if you don't have anybody to speak to, talk to yourself. Talk to the universe, to God, whoever it is you communicate with, or just talk to your phone and record it. I love that. You know, it's like you have to have to have to get it out and, yeah. Finding the way that really resonates with you. You know, I don't like to tell people exactly how to, to do things.

I like to give them some ideas and then let them play with it because we're all creative and we all can figure out ways to heal. We are all intuitively healers as well. Mm. So I feel like so many solopreneurs feel like they're running full speed because they wear all the hats inside their business.

Like for me personally, I, I've gotten down a really good routine for how to manage the multiple different tasks that I do in a day. And I do pay consultants and people to help me at this point, but I'm the CEO of my business.   And  I think we. We set a plan in motion, we start to do the work, and then we have a beginning, middle, and an end to, to complete a task. But sometimes we are doing that from this like cerebral place and we're just working and going and going and we're losing track of the fact that some of the steps that we're taking or some of the behaviors that we're exhibiting are out of alignment.

But we keep doing it because we wanna check the box. And so my question is, what are some signs that, , anxiety or subconscious blocks are kind of running the show instead of our true aligned CEO self?

Yeah. So, before I met with you today, I pulled two cards. Ooh. Because I love, I love to pull Oracle cards. Yeah. And I just said, you know, what is the real message that everybody needs to hear before I get started? 'cause in my head too, I'm like, I've got this, this, and this and this.

But always remembering like connecting, and asking what is it that I need today? And I pulled two cards and one of 'em is deep knowing, which is understanding and knowing that everything is gonna be okay, like the sunrises every day. I know that and I know everything in my life is gonna be okay.

So that deep knowing and then also go with the flow and that flow state. When you are working and you tap into your joy and your, even if you're doing things that you don't really love, like I personally don't love writing emails, but I can do it in a state of flow where everything feels good and posting on, not always something I love to do either.

But when you're in that flow state, that is when you know you can continue to work. So the opposite of that is when you're working and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't know what to write. This is feeling not good. And you're starting to like that cycle in your head of what are other people doing? Maybe you're comparing yourself or I just don't have clarity or I feel it in my stomach.

It's starting to get. Crunchy, or I'm getting frustrated and angry, or I'm feeling like I don't have time, right? That, that happens sometimes I tell people to stop, like completely stop working. Get up and go for a walk. Move your body. Stop for the day. Whatever it is you need to do to get yourself out of that energy, because you are now in a low vibration and you're not going to, you know, if you're trying to attract clients, you're not gonna attract the right kind of clients in that state.

So really becoming super aware of your feelings and your emotions and your body's state of mind. And then if you're not in flow, then stop. So that's my my number one suggestion for entrepreneurs. So it's really becoming more connected to and paying attention to signs in your body. Absolutely. The clinching and the, the, the tightness.

Yeah. Or just, I mean, we, we sometimes operate in a place of stress, you know? I think actually, especially here in America, I think we've got really comfortable operating from, in stressful, anxious energy. Yes. Right. And the internet doesn't make that any easier, which actually I think is a great question for you.

How has the internet and especially like social media, contributed to this mental and emotional overload that people are carrying? Yeah. So I also suggest people to, you know, pay paying attention to their vibration, what makes them feel good. So if you go on social media and you're looking at cat videos and you're laughing your head off and that feels really good, then keep doing.

If you're looking at social media and you're seeing other entrepreneurs and they're like, they're successful, but then in your head you're like, I'm not, yeah, what am I missing? What's wrong here? Then that is something you need not to do. Like if whatever it is you're doing with social media, if it's making you feel good, giving you ideas, helping you be creative, then that's great, but if not, it needs to go away and you don't have to watch anybody else do anything to be successful.

Right? You don't need social media to be successful, right? You can be successful in many different ways, but paying attention to your vibration and seeing what drags you down, I actually. Got rid of, um, Facebook on my phone. 'cause I was, I was noticing that I was spending too much time on in it. And the time I was spending, I was feeling guilty for being on it and not productive.

Just like, so I was like, okay. Vibration. Yeah. I think on the vibrational energy scale isn't guilt. I at the very, very bottom. Yes. And freedom is almost to the top or there. I, I actually heard the other day that freedom is very high and I think the only thing above freedom is being your authentic self.

Hmm. But to me that kind of seems the same. Like, when I'm free, I'm totally free to be myself. Right. Yeah. I love, I love that. I think. We should all have the vibrational energy scale, like on the wall of our offices, be just checking in every half an hour or so. Like where am I now? Am I moving it up or down?

Did I plummet from feelings of peacefulness down to stress and anxiety and guilt, and did something happen that knocked me down a bunch of rungs? Like how can I move it back up to neutrality or acceptance. Right, exactly. And not thinking like, okay, powerlessness is really, really low and I'm, I'm sure everybody has felt powerless.

Mm-hmm. In some situations in their life. And then you look at freedom, which is at the top. And then, and not to just say, okay, I'm at powerlessness. I need to feel freedom. But sometimes you have to build yourself up, make making small steps, just increasing a little bit here and there so you don't see that huge gap and feel like I'm never gonna get to freedom, but what can I do just to move up that ladder just a little bit.

And sometimes it's just a micro experience, right? Sometimes it can just be stopping what you're doing, shutting down, you know, whether it's the computer or the, you know, the writing or whatever you're working on that's feeling tight and inserting a pause.

Yeah. Like choosing another thought. Yes. Yeah. Or choosing to put your phone down. Yeah. Yeah. And that's the action, right? That's the action that you need to take. So you can spend all of your time in, in your head working spiritually, but you have to take some aligned action as well. And it can be little things like taking Facebook off your phone.

Or not allowing your phone to enter your bedroom, or, you know, little tiny things. Yeah. I love that so much. Well, I, I wanna ask you about mindset practices mm-hmm. What are a few daily mindset practices or just intuitive rituals that you might recommend? I'll first say, as an entrepreneur. That, that's really like a de personal development journey. Mm. Because it's all you, you're not hiding behind anybody or a company. Nobody's telling you what to do.

It is you and all of your stuff just comes right out. It's a lovely personal development journey that's free. Yeah. Go you So to, to manage that. Um, so what I would recommend people to do is have some sort of practice and what, again, it's like whatever really works for you. Is it five minutes in the morning?

Is it later in the afternoon, whatever, five minutes, 10 minutes, two hours? And typically when people start out, I ask them just to pick a time on their calendar just to block it out.

You have to step into your power and you have to control your life. Like that's the only thing that we have control over is our ourselves. And that's also pretty powerful. So nobody has control over you, so letting go of the idea that people do and just stepping into your own power and saying, okay, I'm gonna take control of my life and my subconscious, so I'm gonna do these activities.

And in that practice you can do many different things. You can listen to a guided meditation, and that's what I suggest people to listen to if they're new and if meditation or any of this stuff stresses them out. So start very, very simply or journaling, like, how do I feel right now?

How do I feel when I'm looking forward to my day? Does it feel good? Does it feel bad? Just journal about it and just getting it out of you. And then visualization is where I love to spend a lot of time and I tell people they could record themselves on the phone. So pick a goal and really describe to yourself what it feels like, what it looks like, and what you're doing when you achieve this goal.

And record it on your phone and then listen to it. Mm-hmm. And it can be two minutes. I love that. I mean, I've done so many journal practices that were about visualizing the future of what it's like when you actually have achieved the thing you think you want. And I, I absolutely agree. I think it's so powerful.

But I've never done the practice of recording and audio and then listening to it. That's cool. I like that very much. Yeah, that's, it's wonderful to hear yourself speak too. 'cause you're, when you're speaking it too, you're, you're declaring it right.

It's a declaration. So the other piece I like people to work on or to try is mirror work. No, well talk about this. I don't, I've done it, but I don't really practice this, uh, on a regular basis. So when you look in the mirror and you look in your eyes, you are going directly to your soul and it's extremely powerful.

And depending on your past, you may or may not even be able to look at yourself in your eyes. So I encourage people to be gentle with this process because it can bring up a lot of stuff. So start, always, start slowly. But the first thing I like people to say is to say their name and then to say, I love you.

So I would look in the mirror, look in my eyes, and I'd say, Carrie, I love you. And again, some people can't say that. To keep practicing it until it becomes comfortable. Yeah, and a few other tips around this too, could be forgiving yourself, like saying, Carrie, I forgive you for X. You know, Carrie, I forgive you for not using your voice, Carrie, I forgive you for staying in that marriage for too long.

You know, just whatever it is. So forgiveness is beautiful because we carry a lot of judgment on ourselves. Yeah. I think that's, that's first of all, that's so deep. And I think that's probably the biggest impediment to success and growth. Yeah. I don't, it's like the world, the, you know, the world wants us to succeed.

The universe has, does have our backs, but we are blocked by this mental. Patterns of beliefs. It really just is that simple. I mean, it's so simple, but it's so hard, right? Like you said, because it's, you can say, oh, I know I have a pattern belief around food. Or I have a pattern belief around whether or not I'm supposed to wear a business suit, or I have a pattern belief around whether or not it's safe for me to go on the internet and talk about my business.

Like those are the kinds of things that I hear people talking about. But to go from no acknowledging that belief system and that recognizing that pattern to like standing in front of a mirror every single day and actually gazing into your own eyes and forgiving yourself for those beliefs is like a whole nother Yeah.

Practice. That's wild. Yeah. It's really, really profound. And I remember the first time I did it, I was, I couldn't get through too many of them and I was like crying. Mm-hmm. But it's good. It's good, it's good. So all of these things that happen in your life, , the negative things that come up. And like you said, that universe has our back.

So the universe is showing us this is something that you need to clear. This is something you need to clear. Okay. You're not listening. So here it is again. But it's coming bigger and it gets bigger and bigger until you're like, almost feel broken sometimes. Do you ever, have you ever experienced that feeling of feeling broken and you're, that's when you're like, alright, I surrender.

I am giving up. Yeah. I don't know what to do and I'm giving it all to the universe. Like I'm giving, giving it away. Yeah. And I, I need that support. And I believe, and I trust, I think that's one of the most interesting things about the pandemic is that it's probably in our lifetimes, the most stark example that we have.

Where the collective mass of humans felt that breaking point on as at the same time, like not exactly the same day or anything, but just generally speaking, there was a period of about a year where everyone alive felt that the platelets had shifted so drastically from whatever construct they had built to survive this life.

Right? Yeah. Whatever job they had been working, whatever way they disciplined their kids, whatever relationship they were upholding and managing whatever beliefs that were previously part of the construct that they had become, enmeshed in, was suddenly wiped wiped away, and everything shifted and it happened to everyone.

Yeah. . Yeah. And everybody had a choice to decide how were they gonna deal with it as well. And were you the one that looked at the news every single day and listened to all the people dying, like, here's the death count every single day?

Or did you go within, did you try to enjoy your family, your friends connection? Like, you know, how did, that's an interesting thing to look at. 'cause it was a very difficult time for all of us altogether. And people thrived and other people didn't. So maybe thinking about that and thinking to yourself like, what did I do?

How did I behave through that whole process too? Yeah. I try to always insert that question when I'm, struggling with something. Like if it's a conflict between myself and any outside element, but another person, for example, it's like it takes two to tango, so I must be participating if I'm experiencing this.

I must be bringing something to it. Yes. Yeah. So if I don't like the way this feels, how can I at least identify my own role in making this feeling happen? You know, and how can I slowly remove myself from the equation without, totally ruining everything. But sometimes we reach a breaking point, like you said, and it's, and then it's a feeling of surrender.

But if somebody's experiencing that feeling of I give up. Mm-hmm. Right? I don't know what to do here. I've tried this, I've tried that, I've tried everything and this is broken and it appears from all points of data that I can't fix it.

Where does the, the role of mastering the mind and becoming the CEO of the mind step in, like how does that play a role there? Like, we can play a role in the next step. Yes. Yeah. So, uh, I'll say that if we also realize that things that are happening to us negatively are, , opportunities for us to dig a little bit deeper when we release those things, those negative things. When I say release or surrender, I'm talking about releasing the negativity, the limiting beliefs that we have in holding.

And when we do that, that expands ourselves to hold more. So if you want more in life, whether it's I want to expand my business, I want to, um, call in my soulmate, I wanna earn more money. It's almost like you have this container that is small and you want it to be larger. So you have some things to get rid of so that you can expand your container.

And oftentimes that happens when you feel broken. And when that happens, when you're in that state of brokenness, that's when you completely surrender and say, this is good. It is all good. And I'm certain that things are working out for me, even though it doesn't feel it right. To have that complete certainty, that card that I pulled today, that deep knowing that you are okay.

Then connect yourself to the light universe, God, and just allow that light to come into you and feel that love and acceptance and that authenticity of yourself. I love that. I think what you said earlier resonates so deeply with this, which is that the entrepreneurial journey at large is a journey of self-development.

Yeah. And it's gonna break you over and over and over again because you're gonna think something is gonna work out, and then it won't. You're gonna think you made the sale, but then they ghost you. You're gonna think that your product is highly functional and competitive, but it's not. You're gonna think your website is working the way you want it to, and then you find out it's been down for two months and you never checked it.

You're gonna think that you aligned your funnel up, but then you find out there's a, a, a break someplace and no one's making it into your email list. Like, all these things that we have, you know, we practice and try to build. I'm, I'm thinking mostly about, you know, virtual businesses or just, yeah. You know, it's a lot of what I focus on, but.

There's so many ways in which we can hit a wall mm-hmm. And, and feel like something is breaking. , And the goal then is to exactly what you said, is just to say, how is this a lesson for me? Yes. This is a lesson. What's the lesson? How can I take the lesson and immediately apply that or just take this as an opportunity to grow.

Mm-hmm. Yeah. And have that feeling or that outlook of when you, when you start doing this work, and you get used to it, and you can see all your triggers as, oh, this is a lesson. This is just a lesson. You know, I can feel the frustration, I can feel the anger, and then I'm like, okay, this is a lesson and I'm excited to see what's next.

Like, I always love to reframe it in that way. I'm excited to see what's next. I'm excited to see what's next. Oh, that's really good. Yeah, I mean, I think, you know, one of the biggest and bestest tools that we can add to our toolkit as an entrepreneur is this sense of intuition.

And so , it's interesting to me that you were doing this sort of armchair psychology at your former corporate job, and then were able to realize , oh, I'm helping them feel better by opening a space and helping them, you know, release and relieve themselves of all of this stress, anxiety.

And I think a lot of entrepreneurs in these, in these service roles, that's what we do, right? We're saying to our clients. Don't worry, I got you. Come, you know, chat with me about the problem that you're having and I have the tools to help you relieve that problem, re release that stress and anxiety. So in many ways, like you said, everyone's a healer.

I do think entrepreneurs in the service work, , coaches, consultants, people helping people in any number of ways, even product development, like even if you have a product, if it solves somebody's problem mm-hmm. Like in some way, shape, or form, every business is really only functioning because it solves somebody's problem. Mm-hmm. Um, and in that way it kind of makes us all in that channel role. But yes, I'm sure a lot of entrepreneurs out there are just like, no, I'm just trying to make money.

I'm not trying to be a healer. But I think it's interesting to, to, to realize and recognize that whether you decided that you wanted to do that or not, in some way, shape or form, you are transmuting energy for people. Yeah. And so , how can we better learn to hear or trust our inner guidance, um, as people who provide services?

Mm. Mm-hmm. So if you're not, if somebody is, hasn't done that before, you know, listen to their intuition. Well, I'm sure everybody's felt something like when you go into a room and you feel energy of people, or you're, you're doing something and then all of a sudden you get this crunchy feeling in your gut.

Right. I'm sure everybody can relate to that feeling. Yeah. That's you talking. That's your intuition, right? And I, I feel like the first step of that is just feeling awareness of your body. Like, how do I feel all the time? Like when I walk into a room, when I'm working in my office, when I'm working on a particular thing, how do I feel?

And your body is gonna tell you what's good and what's not good. So that's step one is just being an awareness of your body. But as for tools, I love to use Oracle cards and I encourage people to use Oracle cards who are just beginning the journey on tapping into their intuition. And there are gazillion Oracle cards out there, so just go with the first thing that feels right, but pulling a card and then looking at it and saying what sticks out to me at first?

Is, is your message? So I am, I love my decks of cards. I'm, I'm, I'm a fan. , For anyone listening who's like, I don't even know what an Oracle card is, um, what exactly are these tools? Um, they're divination, they're guides. They opposed to, like tarot, tarot is a little different. Um, but the Oracle cards, I think, I don't know if they always have a certain number in them, but their guidance and.

They're really just messages from spirit to you. And all you have to do is really ground yourself before you pull a card and then just grab one or shuffle until one falls out, and then look at it. And it's just a simple guide to maybe guide you in a different direction or to give you some insight that maybe you're not seeing. Yeah, I mean, that's a great way to put it. It's just really guidance around your energy. Yes. And it gives you a chance to kind of reflect on where you might be at in that, in that exact moment. Yeah. And the more you use those kind of tools, I think the more you start to realize there's.

There are supportive ways for me to interpret these vibrational feelings that are in my body. Like that's really what it is, right? Absolutely. Yeah. Like moving the energy up from a cellular level to a more conscious level where you're like, oh, I'm thinking about my actual problem. Yes. This card just gives me a reflection point.

Mm-hmm. To say, oh, okay. Interesting. , It's like it's actually great for the reframe, right? It's really, yes. Instead of saying, this is a problem and I'm stuck there, you're saying, let me open myself up to not being stuck. Let me seek guidance. Let me just randomly pull a card out of this deck and see what I learned.

Yes. It's just, even just that is shifting your mind because you're saying I'm open to something different than what I was feeling. Exactly. And the universe is hearing you. Yeah. Yeah. I love that so much. I, you know, I was on a call, a group call the other day in my inner alignment, um, community, and I was like, does anybody want a card? And everyone's like, yes, I do. I was like, okay, we're doing this now. Okay. So do you host a community? I have. Yep.

I have a little community, um, or a community that I'm growing and sort of just revised it all. I'm, and I'm super excited about that too.

It's called Inner Alignment Hub. And every week I go in there and I. Do a clearing. So I, I choose a limiting belief that I tap into the energy of the people and we clear it and it's just a recorded five minute recording of me clearing this, whatever it is, this limiting belief. I, I may talk a little bit about it and then do the clearing and then maybe some steps to, um, progress on your healing journey.

So that is the basic of it. And I, I have some free meditations that I do every other Thursday and those are going in there as well, so you can access those meditations. And then I have private communities, so I have an inner alignment series that's going on right now and that's private. And so that's housed in there as well.

And then I am next month starting a new high vibe club, which I just want people to, I. Stay in this high vibration. So we're gonna get together, we're gonna say, this is how I'm failing, and then we're gonna clear it altogether. And that is gonna be useful for people who just wanna start tapping into the subconscious work or people who have done programs with me, but just wanna keep that vibration high.

So that's gonna be coming next month and I'm super excited about that one. Yeah, that sounds really great. I was listening to this meditation the other day, um, that really, really helped me, that we're basically the release technique was to, envision your goal, and get a clear picture of the thing that you think you need, whether that be a financial goal or, you know, some type of a status goal or a weight loss goal or just any goal.

It doesn't really matter what it is. And. Think about, notice if any feelings are coming up mm-hmm. Around that goal. And then ask yourself, can you see that desire, that goal, and any of the, the, the, the tension coming up around , the desire to get that goal, whatever that goal is, as, a need for approval, a need for control.

Mm-hmm. Or a, a desire to feel safe and secure. , Whether that's $20,000 or a new boyfriend, or being able to buy a car or, whatever it is, you have this goal and you're after that goal and all the actions that you take, are seeking that goal and there's tension around it. And so instead of aligning with the energy of it, you're, you're chasing it. You're wanting it.

You're, and I think this is exactly what happens with people around sales. Yeah. Um, but yeah, I love that thought of like, can you just see that that's you, that that's you wanting approval, wanting control, or wanting to feel safe and secure. And then just ask yourself, can I release that wanting and move yourself from wanting to having, because we already have everything.

We desire. Right. That was the thing. So I was, ah, I love it so much. I'm like, I need to do this every day. Yes, yes you do. 'cause even at this point in my career where I have had great success, I find myself tightening up, clenching up mm-hmm. Around any big goal that I have. It just is, I think, it's gotta be patterned beliefs from my young life.

I really think that that is what's happening. And so I've been actively pursuing, ways to kind of shift out of that. And every day I am feeling more aligned. And it's been magnificent to do that work. I really do appreciate it. Um, I have a lot of clients who are like, I'm not woo, I'm not woo woo.

Mm-hmm. Uh, and I think, you know, that phrase is actually kind of. Not a great phrase. It's interesting. It's interesting because everyone is energetic. We are energetic bodies. That is a fact. Scientifically you are a head to toe a conducting energy, right?

Yeah. So there's no debate there. So you are energy, and your energy animates you. Right? So some people if they hear about spirituality or God or any of these buzzwords around the, the energetic side of our experience here, , they just kind of shut it out.

But if you present them with the science, right, and you say, well, you know, the feeling of guilt vibrates down here in this very low place. And from that place it's very difficult to be a confident leader, right? Yeah. And you start to show the sciencey part of it, then they they plug in. Yes. Yeah.

, Oh, now I can hear you because it's science. Yeah. And I find myself kind of at the crossroads, um, because I believe we are these energetic, spiritual beings living in a material world and living in these physical bodies, but the science really does it for me because that, that they go to me, they go hand in hand.

And I just love that. , But what would you say to the sort of nonbelievers or the people who are like, oh, I'm not woo about intuition and about this energetic body work that you do. Yeah. I, I. I've given presentations for people who aren't woo at all.

And sometimes I'm like walking into this and I'm like, how are they gonna perceive this stuff? But it is science, you know, that that's actually, we live in a really interesting time right now where there's a lot more and more of the science coming out. But if you think even just like the plant behind you or the wall behind me, my, um, mouse and my hand is the same thing as me.

If you get down to , the atomic level, we are, it's the same thing. And we're not, it's not still, nothing is solid. So if you're into quantum physics, it's really, really fun to get into there and dig around. But we're all the same. Isn't it fun? It's pretty amazing and we're vibrating. On our smallest level, we're vibrating.

So everything is vibration. We've measured it, like you said, we measure the, you can measure feelings, you can measure thoughts. Right. It's quite, quite amazing. So the science is there, so there's really nothing else to say other than it's science. Yeah. And you can choose to, believe it or not, there's a lot of science out there.

Right. And you can choose to believe whatever science you want. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. So, but interestingly, \ when people start to adopt this intuitive practice, that's when they start to feel lighter around the work, in my experience.

Yeah. So I think it's really important. Yeah. And you know, they don't have to say, nobody has to say, God, universe. You don't have to say that. You can say energy, right? Yeah. Because that, that is what it is, right? It's energy. And if that feels better to you to say energy or just to say, I'm changing my thoughts because I wanna feel better.

You don't have to label it. We don't have to label anything and just drop it all. Like, you don't have to say like, I'm now a woo person where I, I didn't wanna be a woo person. You don't, no labels, you don't have to label label. Just comes judgment. So just let go of any of that and just do what feels right, you know?

Mm. I love that with labels comes judgment. That is so interesting for somebody who works with people all day on building a brand which requires labeling. I mean, and that's a question I, I guess, does it like, do we have to, as a personal brand, do, do we have to lock ourselves into, you know, a label? Because that's, I think, where this tension starts to come in, right?

Some of the stress around building your identity is like, well, what if I'm a multi-passionate person who doesn't just do business coaching, or i'm not just a hairdresser, I'm also a mom, I'm also a violin player. I'm also a gardener, and those are all labels.

But in this world of presenting ourselves and you know, kind of putting our best step foot forward on the internet, I think that causes a lot of stress and anxiety for people is to feel like. They have to label themselves that they're gonna get found. Right. That's what SEO is all about. Right? Right. Yeah.

As long as it's not restricting you. Right. So if you think of, you know, we're, we have so many things going on in our lives. Like you said, I'm a gardener. I love to garden. I'm not, but I'm imagining somebody else saying this gardener. I, I like to, I like the idea of it. Um, or, you know, I am an entrepreneur. I do this, but I also love to sing and dance.

I love hip hop music. I love to dance. So I had to make sure, and this is what, and I'll just back up and say I had an interesting experience with my. Career my, because I'm fairly new to being an entrepreneur full-time, I got too structured around it. Like I had to be professional, that I had to look a certain way, make sure everybody's feeling good, and I found that I was getting a lot of resistance in my job.

So I actually took a break and. I still had some clients and I was working with my clients, but then I started like a waitressing job because I was putting too much pressure on myself. And then I was like, oh my gosh, I forgot how much I love waitressing. I hadn't done it for 30 years. I'm like, I love people.

I love having fun. I love hanging out with young people. You know, we listen to music at the end of the night and I'm like, okay, this is me. Yeah. And I had to stop pretending or, you know, structuring myself to be this kind of person that was gonna be that entrepreneur. Yeah. So I'm, I'm like in the middle of sort of rebranding myself again too and saying, you know, I am, I like to have fun.

I'm funny, or I think I am. I like to have a good time. I like to go out and. Dance. I'm 53 years old and I still like to go out clubbing. Yeah. I like fun. Yeah. Gen GenX loves fun. Let's just get real. That's right, that's right. Gen X is fun. Gen X we are feral. Yes. Fun was like we had to make fun.

Yeah. There was nothing, there were no tools. There were no toys. Exactly. Literally we were like, okay, we're gonna go out in the woods and imagine a game. Imagine, you know, whatever. Yes. I love that. So what I realized is I was like putting this, um, restriction. I put a label around myself and said that's what I had to be and I couldn't be these other things.

And now I'm like, I'm that plus all of the bag of chips, you know, like I'm it all. So that's, I love what you just said about. As long as it's not restricting you, because yeah, I do find myself guiding people with like different journaling tools and stuff. Inside my program people have these big, large, looming questions like, am I a coach?

Am I a consultant? What label should I put on myself? And it feels challenging because it is. So, I love just, I will probably borrow and insert that and just say, say all the words out loud and feel vibrationally which one feels the most aligned and doesn't feel like it's restricting you. Right? 'cause you can be a coach, consultant, a mentor, a podcaster, uh, that you can do all those things under the label of entrepreneur and also still be, you know, a dancer and a mom, and a gardener and a, all the things else that you are.

Um, I think we're in a really, uh, you know, wonderful phase of entrepreneurship where the we're like in the era of the personal brand. And so yes, you really do get to be the driver, of that car and decide what goes in your little Instagram bio that you want people to know about you. Like, be creative, be have fun with it, right?

So, and know that you can change. It's not a forever label. That's another really good point. And I like the idea of just asking yourself, do I feel restricted? Yeah, that's good. That's good advice. So if, if a listener happens to be somebody who's not necessarily already , doing intuitive work or tapping in or seeing themselves as that, or maybe like the anti woo crowd and they're not doing some of these daily practices and they don't really have a practice around it yet. Mm-hmm. What is the first step that you would invite her to take starting today?

Become aware of how you're feeling and everything that you do this. How am I feeling? Hmm. Especially when we're busy or we have anxiety, we block a lot of our feelings, and if some bad crap happened to you in your childhood, you put up these walls. So just inviting people just to feel, what am I feeling right now?

Just becoming aware of how I feel, and then that's gonna start to shift things. Yeah. That's, that's great. That's super helpful. That's, that is the first step. Awareness. Mm-hmm. It is. Carrie, thank you so much for, for hanging with me today. Where can we find you online so you can visit my Instagram? Brand new.

Oh good. I'm gonna follow you. Um, yeah, that would be great. It's called Align. Align with Carrie. Align with Carrie. Great. And I also have a link tree called release and empower.com. And you can, and I'll put both of those in the show notes. Yeah, you can, um, download my free meditation. Oh, and it's excellent.

It's, it's a meditation for like your new path, meeting your soul and on this new path journey. I love it. That sounds really, really good. We will add all those links in the bio and I just have one other question for you, which is, what is something that's lighting you up right now and that you're looking forward to?

Well, I can say this conversation has been really nice in that I feel really like light right now, which is great. So that goes a lot to say for you, like you're amazing. Oh, thank you. But what am I looking forward to? I am looking forward to expanding myself, like really expanding myself. I've, I've been doing that lately and I'm seeing a lot of things shift and I'm just really excited to see where I can go and how I can help other people just share more light.

I just caught the chills and so that, that's really, really good. I love that. Like that, that prickly kind of Yes. Feeling. Yes. Uh, thank you so much for saying that. I think that's so brilliant. You know, really, it's beautiful and brilliant to just say, I wanna expand myself. Like, that's so, um, just a beautiful intention to set, so.

Mm-hmm. Yes. And we all can do it. May we all expand ourselves. That's actually how I end all of my podcast episodes is by saying, may you be vibrant, but maybe I'm gonna change it today to say. Thank you everyone who's been listening, I hope this was enlightening for you. Please go check out Carrie online.

I'll put all the links in the show notes. Make sure to download her free meditation so you can do some of this new path, intuitive work for yourself. I believe heavily in this checking in and really getting into the embodied place and, and becoming the, the CEO of your mind. It seems like such a powerful pathway to be on for all of us.

So, um, and thanks for listening as always, and until we see each other next week, may you be expansive.

Thank you so much.